Playing catch, one person gently tosses a ball. The other person rips it back! No problem. The first person tosses gently again. The second rips it back!
This sounds like an argument but it isn’t. The parent throws gently. The toddler throws hard.
Would it be an argument if the parent perceives hard throws from the toddler as weak and inaccurate while the toddler perceives soft throws from the parent as painful and scary?
Not necessarily. The parent dives for every groundball, making both parent and child laugh. And children often enjoy scary rides. Even when they hurt a bit.
Two adults play catch. One tosses gently, the other throws hard. Ouch! It hurts.
No problem. The first player tosses gently again. The second player takes the hint.